Have you ever felt like you're living the same emotional story on repeat?

Different relationships. New chapters. Fresh starts. But somehow, the pain feels familiar — rejection, abandonment, being overlooked, not feeling safe or heard.

I know this pattern intimately — because I’ve lived it.

For years, I found myself in relationships and spaces that echoed the same wounds. I’d tell myself, “This time it’s different,” but deep down, the feelings of being unseen or unworthy would return in new forms.

It took me a long time to understand: I wasn’t cursed. I was repeating.

🔁 Why Does This Keep Happening?

We don’t repeat patterns because we’re weak or flawed.
We repeat them because they’re familiar. Even when something hurts us, it becomes part of our emotional comfort zone. The mind clings to what it knows — even if it’s pain.

Often, these patterns form in childhood or earlier relationships. And unless we bring them into conscious awareness, we unknowingly:

• Attract emotionally unavailable people

• Stay in dynamics where we overgive

• Keep proving our worth in places we were never meant to stay

🌱 My Healing Work — and What I’ve Learned

Healing these loops wasn’t easy. In fact, when I began the real work — therapy, emotional processing, nervous system regulation — everything felt like it was falling apart.

But it wasn’t. It was falling into place.

As we start healing, we often feel more discomfort than ever, because:

• Old coping mechanisms stop working

• New boundaries upset familiar dynamics

• We begin choosing differently — and it’s scary

But I’ve learned something essential:

Don’t run back to the pain just because it feels familiar.

Growth requires grounding yourself through the discomfort of new emotional territory.

🧘‍♀️ How Therapy Helps Break the Loop

Therapy helped me hold up a mirror — gently, without judgment. It gave me language for what I was feeling and safe space to:

• Recognize my triggers

• Reparent my emotional wounds

• Build new boundaries rooted in self-respect

• Allow love in without needing to earn it

If you're repeating emotional patterns, therapy doesn’t just help you understand why — it supports you to change from within.

A Gentle Note from my Heart:

You’re not broken. You’re being called to heal the deeper truth within you.

Patterns repeat until we become aware enough to break them.

And yes, it’s uncomfortable. But it’s also incredibly freeing.

If I can do it — slowly, sometimes painfully, but honestly — so can you.

Written by Kavitha Shyam Sreedhar

Clinical Psychologist & Hypnotherapist
Founder, Iyashi Wellness

If this resonates with your journey, know that you’re not alone. Let’s explore these patterns together — with kindness and courage.

Reach out to me or visit www.iyashi.space